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1


 : Sharon Salzberg. TheForce ofKindness: Change Your Life with Love andCompassion. Sounds True, 2010. ..




2


., , Sidney J. Blatt, Dependency andSelf-Criticism: Psychological Dimensions ofDepression, Journal ofConsulting andClinical Psychology 50 (1982): 113124.




3


., , Jennifer Crocker andLora E. Park, TheCostly Pursuit ofSelf-Esteem, Psychological Bulletin 130 (2004): 392414.




4


Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: AnAlternative Conceptualization ofa Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself, Self andIdentity 2 (2003): 85102.




5


His Holiness Tenzin Gyatso, Kindness, Clarity, andInsight (Ithaca, NY: Snow Lion Publications, 1989).




6


  : Neff, Self-Compassion, inHandbook ofIndividual Differences inSocial Behavior, ed. Mark R. Leary andRick H. Hoyle (NewYork: Guilford Press, 2009), 561573.




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8


Kristin Neff, Development andValidation ofa Scale toMeasure Self-Compassion, Self andIdentity 2 (2003): 223250.




9


 : Eliot T. S. TheElder Statesman (1958). ..




10


Paul Gilbert, Human Nature andSuffering (Hove, UK: Erlbaum, 1989).




11


Mark D. Alicke andOlesya Govorun, TheBetter-Than-Average Effect, inThe Self inSocial Judgment, ed. Mark D. Alicke, David A. Dunning, andJoachim I. Krueger (NewYork: Psychology Press, 2005), 85106.




12


Caroline E. Preston andStanley Harris, Psychology ofDrivers inTraffic Accidents, Journal ofApplied Psychology 49 (1965): 284288.




13


Emily Pronin, Thomas Gilovich, andLee Ross, Objectivity inthe Eye ofthe Beholder: Divergent Perceptions ofBias inSelf Versus Others, Psychological Review 111 (2004): 781799.




14


., , Constantine Sedikides, Lowell Gaertner, andJack L. Vevea, Evaluating theEvidence forPancultural Self-Enhancement, Asian Journal ofSocial Psychology 10 (2007): 201203.




15


Abraham Tesser, Toward aSelf-Evaluation Maintenance Model ofSocial Behavior, inThe Self inSocial Psychology, ed. Roy F. Baumeister (NewYork: Psychology Press, 1999), 446460.




16


Rosalind Wiseman, Queen Bees andWannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, andNew Realities ofGirl World (NewYork: Crown, 2002).




17


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18


Paul Gilbert, Compassion andCruelty: ABiopsychosocial Approach, inCompassion: Conceptualisations, Research andUse inPsychotherapy, ed. Paul Gilbert (London: Routledge, 2005), 974.




19


Sidney J. Blatt, Experiences ofDepression: Theoretical, Clinical, andResearch Perspectives (Washington, D. C.: American Psychological Association, 2004).




20


Kristin Neff, Development andValidation ofa Scale toMeasure Self-Compassion, Self andIdentity 2 (2003): 223250.




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Darcy A. Santor andDavid C. Zuroff, Interpersonal Responses toThreats toStatus andInterpersonal Relatedness: Effects ofDependency andSelf-Criticism, British Journal ofClinical Psychology 36 (1997): 521541.




23


William B. Swann, Self-Traps: TheElusive Quest forHigher Self-Esteem (NewYork: W. H. Freeman, 1996).


