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1


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3


Robert Karen, PhD, Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love (New York: Oxford University Press, 1998), p. 230.




4


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5


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6


David J. Wallin, Attachment in Psychotherapy (New York: Guilford Press, 2007), n. 1, p. 4.




7


Diana Fosha, The Transforming Power of Affect: A Model for Accelerated Change (New York: Basic Books/Perseus Book Group, 2000), p. 64.




8


Diana Fosha, The Transforming Power of Affect: A Model for Accelerated Change (New York: Basic Books/Perseus Book Group, 2000), p. 65.




9


Diana Fosha, The Transforming Power of Affect: A Model for Accelerated Change (New York: Basic Books/Perseus Book Group, 2000), p. 65.




10


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11


. Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents.




12


Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen Hunt, MA, MLA, Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents (New York: Pocket Books, 1997), p. 214.




13


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14


      (   )   ,  ,           ,     ,   ,     ,  ,    ,          . Miranda Hitti, Hormone May Help Mom and Baby Bond: Pregnancy Levels of the Hormone Oxytocin May Influence Mother-Child Bonding, WebMD Medical News, 16  2007 , webmd.com/parenting/baby/news/20071016/hormone-may-halp-baby-bond




15


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16


Allan Shore, reported in Sue Gerhardt, Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Babys Brain (New York: Brunner-Routledge, Taylor & Francis Group, 2004), p. 41.




17


Mario Mikulincer and Phillip R. Shaver, Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change (New York: Guilford Press, 2007), p. 38.




18


Karen, Becoming Attached, p. 238.




19


Susan Anderson, The Journey from Abandonment to Healing (New York: Berkeley Books, 2000), pp. 7778.




20


Daniel J. Siegel, Toward an Interpersonal Neurobiology of the Developing Mind: Attachment Relationships, Mindsight, and Neural Integration, Infant Mental Health Journal 22, no. 1: p. 77 (citing Cassidy and Shaver, 1999).




21


Wallin, Attachment in Psychotherapy, p. 22.




22


Ruth P. Newton, PhD, citing 2005 research by L. A. Sroufe, B. Egeland, E. Carlson, and W. A. Collins, in The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2008), p. 27.




23


Shirley Jean Schmidt, MA, LPC, citing Siegel, Toward an Interpersonal Neurobiology, in The Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy (San Antonio: DNMS Institute, 2006), p. 17.




24


Siegel, Toward an Interpersonal Neurobiology, p. 77.




25


Gerhardt, Why Love Matters, pp. 6579.




26


,    ,  ,   .     Allan Schore, PhD, and Daniel J. Siegel, MD.          Sue Gerhardt, Why Love Matters.




27


Gerhardt, Why Love Matters, pp. 38, 44.




28


               30%, ,       ,     38%. Karen, Becoming Attached, pp. 220, 224.




29


Ibid., p. 329.




30


Ibid., pp. 156, 373,    Ainsworth,   Main.




31


Gerhardt, Why Love Matters, p. 93.




32


Mary Main,   Karen, Becoming Attached, p. 224.




33


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34


Fosha, Transforming Power of Affect, p. 52.




35


Kathryn Black, Mothering Without a Map, (New York: Penguin Books, 2004), p. 64.




36


Karen, Becoming Attached, p. 387.




37


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38


Malcolm L. West and Adrienne E. Sheldon-Keller, Patterns of Relating: An Adult Attachment Perspective (New York: Guilford, 1994), p. 75.




39


Main and Hesse, 1990,    Siegel, Toward an Interpersonal Neurobiology, p. 78,      .




40


Newton, Attachment Connection, p. 30.




41


Siegel, Toward an Interpersonal Neurobiology, p. 78.




42


Daniel J. Siegel, Attachment and Self-Understanding: Parenting with the Brain in Mind, in Attachment and Human Survival, ed. Marci Green and Marc Scholes (New York: Karnac, 2004), p. 34.




43


Joan Woodward, Introduction to Attachment Theory, in Attachment and Human Survival, ed. Marci Green and Marc Scholes (New York: Karnac, 2004), p. 16.




44


Newton, Attachment Connection, p. 30.




45


Newton, Attachment Connection, p. 30.




46


Siegel, Attachment and Self-Understanding, p. 29.




47


Gerhardt, Why Love Matters, p. 147.




48


Fosha, Transforming Power of Affect, p. 54.




49


        ,      ,  Hazan and Shaver (1987),   in Mikulincer and Shaver, Attachment in Adulthood.




50


Karen, Becoming Attached, p. 227.




51


Karen, Becoming Attached, p. 228.




52


  Diana Fosha,                  . Transforming Power of Affect, 47.       :   ,                 (Bowlby, 1988; Sandler, 1960),                  , pp. 3940.




53


. Failure to Thrive (FTT) Syndrome.




54


Michael St. Clair, Object Relations and Self Psychology: An Introduction, second edition (Pacific Grove, CA: Brooks/Cole Publishing, 1996), p. 79.




55


Ashley Montagu, Touching: The Human Significance of the Skin, third edition (New York: Harper Paperbacks, 1986), p. 126.


