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notes








1


Donovan Lisa. Our lady of perpetual hunger: A Memoir. NewYork: Penguin Press, 2020; 83.




2


Komisar Erica. Being there: Why prioritizing motherhood in the first three years matters. NewYork: TarcherPerigee, 2017; 36.




3


Axness Marcy. Parenting for peace: Raising the next generation of peacemakers. Boulder, CO: Sentient, 2012; 192.




4


Mat Gabor. In the realm of hungry ghosts: Close encounters with addiction. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books, 2010; 436. As cited in Axness, parenting for peace; 193.




5


Axness. Parenting for peace; 194.




6


Komisar. Being there; 36.




7


Levine Amir, Heller Rachel. Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find and keep love. NewYork: TarcherPerigree, 2010.




8


Szalavitz Maia, Perry Bruce D. Born for love: Why empathy is essential and endangered. NewYork: William Morrow, 2011; 20.




9


Dewar Gwen. Newborn Cognitive Development: What Do Babies Know, and How Do They Learn? Parenting Science; December 2, 2020; https://www.parentingscience.com/newborn-cognitive-development.html (https://www.parentingscience.com/newborn-cognitive-development.html).




10


Siegel Daniel J., Bryson Tina Payne. The whole-brain child: 12 revolutionary strategies to nurture your childs developing mind. NewYork: Bantam, 2012.




11


Black Maureen M. etal. Early childhood development coming of age: Science through the life course. Lancet 2017; 389 (10064): 7790.




12


Hambrick Erin P. etal. Beyond the ACE Score: Examining relationships between timing of developmental adversity, relational health and developmental outcomes in children. Archives of Psychiatric Nursing 2019; 33 (3): 238247.




13


Schore Allan. The American Bowlby: An interview with Allan Schore. Telephone interview by Roz Carroll in March 2001.




14


Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Essentials for childhood: Creating safe, stable, nurturing relationships and environments for all children; https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/essentials-for-childhood-framework508.pdf (https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/essentials-for-childhood-framework508.pdf), accessed November 18, 2020.




15


Bair-Merritt Megan H. etal. A framework for thriving: A comprehensive approach to child health CHCS Blog. Center for Health Care Strategies 2010; October 13; https://www.chcs.org/a-framework-for-thriving-a-comprehensive-approach-to-child-health (https://www.chcs.org/a-framework-for-thriving-a-comprehensive-approach-to-child-health).




16


Komisar. Being there, 207.




17


Robledo Jhoanna. Developmental milestone: Separation and Independence. BabyCenter 2018; December 12; https://www.babycenter.com/baby/baby-development/developmental-milestone-separation-and-independence_6577 (https://www.babycenter.com/baby/baby-development/developmental-milestone-separation-and-independence_6577).




18


Harvard University Center on the Developing Child. ACEs and toxic stress: Frequently asked questions; accessed September 20, 2020; https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions (https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions); Adrienne Rich. It is hard to write about my own mother: On the deep complexity of the mother daughter relationship. Literary Hub 2018; August 24; https://lithub.com/adriennerich-it-is-hard-to-write-about-my-own-mother (https://lithub.com/adriennerich-it-is-hard-to-write-about-my-own-mother).




19


Rich. It is hard to write about my own mother.




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21


Rich. It is hard to write about my own mother.




22


Rich Adrienne. Of woman born: Motherhood as experience and institution. NewYork: W. W. Norton, 1986; 237.




23


Menakem Resmaa. My grandmothers hands: Racialized trauma and the pathway to mending our hearts and bodies. Las Vegas: Central Recovery Press, 2017; 42.


