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Shannon Boodram

THE GAME OF DESIRE



 2019 by Shannon Brady. All rights reserved.

Published by arrangement with Ecco, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers.



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Nancy Jo Sales, Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse, Vanity Fair, September 2016, https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating.




3


David Brooks, The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement (New York: Random House, 2011), xii.




4


Americas Families and Living Arrangements: 2014, United States Census Bureau, last modified May 4, 2018, https://www.census.gov/data/tables/2014/demo/families/cps-2014.html.




5


Jon Birger, Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game (New York: Workman Publishing Company, 2015), 3, 54.




6


Nancy Jo Sales, Swiped. Documentary. Directed by Nancy Jo Sales, featuring Tim MacGougan. New York City: Consolidated Documentaries. 2018. 38:00.




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Sales, Swiped, 38:00.




8


Emerging new threat in online dating: Initial trends in internet dating initiated serious sexual assaults, National Crime Agency, published February 7, 2016, http://www.nationalcrimeagency.gov.uk/publications/670-emerging-new-threat-in-online-dating-initial-trends-in-internet-dating-initiated-serious-sexual-assaults/file.




9


Sexually Transmitted Surveillance 2017, Centers for Disease Control, last reviewed October 15, 2018, https://www.cdc.gov/std/stats17/default.htm.




10


Survey Finds Nearly Three-Quarters (72%) of Americans Feel Lonely, Harris Poll on behalf of American Osteopathic Association, conducted September 1921, 2016, http://admin.osteopathic.org/inside-aoa/news-and-publications/media-center/2016-news-releases/Pages/1011-survey-finds-nearly-three-quarters-of-americans-feel-lonely.aspx.




11


A.H. Maslow, A Theory of Human Motivation, Psychological Review 50, 370396.




12


Ty Tashiro, The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love (New York: Harlequin, 2014), 2745.




13


Anxiety and physical illness, Harvard Womens Health Watch at Harvard Medical School, last revised May 9, 2018, https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/anxiety_and_physical_illness.


