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 (. Pleasantville)   1998.         ,  1998 ,     -    ,     1950- . . .




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  (. 1928),       (Dr. Ruth),  ,  -  ,   .  - (. 1950),      (Dr. Phil),  , ,     . . .




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Edward Podolsky, Sex Today in Wedded Life (NewYork: Simon Publications, 1945), p. 237.




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Edward Podolsky, Sex Today in Wedded Life (NewYork: Simon Publications, 1945), p. 237.




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Jim Daly, Ten Commandments for Husbands and Wives, Focus on the Family, <https://jimdaly.focusonthefamily.com/ (https://jimdaly.focusonthefamily.com/)>




9


Stephanie Coontz, Marriage, a History, (NewYork: Penguin, 2005), pp.110111. Jan Luiten van Zanden, Tine De Moor, Sarah Carmichael, Capital Women: The European Marriage Pattern, Female Empowerment and Economic Development in Western Europe 13001800 (NewYork: Oxford University Press, 2019).




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Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and The Will to Lead (NewYork: Knopf, 2013).




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., , Women had Higher Median Earnings Than Men in Relatively Few Occupations in 2018, U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, March 22, 2019. <https://www.bls.gov/opub/ted/2019/women-had-higher-median-earnings-than-men-in-relatively-few-occupations-in-2018.htm (https://www.bls.gov/opub/ted/2019/women-had-higher-median-earnings-than-men-in-relatively-few-occupations-in-2018.htm)> Benjamin Artz, Amanda Goodall, and Andrew J. Oswald, Research: Women Ask for Raises as Often as Men, but Are Less Likely to Get Them, Harvard Business Review, June 25, 2018. <https://hbr.org/2018/06/research-women-ask-for-raises-as-often-as-men-but-are-less-likely-to-get-them (https://hbr.org/2018/06/research-women-ask-for-raises-as-often-as-men-but-are-less-likely-to-get-them)>




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Gender Equality Universally Embraced, But Inequalities Acknowledged, Pew Research Center, July 1, 2010. <https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2010/07/01/gender-equality/ (https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2010/07/01/gender-equality/)>




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   (. Breaking Bad)    ,       2008 2013. . .




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Gretchen Livingston and Kim Parker, 8 Facts About American Dads, Pew Research Center, June 12, 2019. <https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/ (https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/06/12/fathers-day-facts/)>




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Judith Shulevitz, Mom: The Designated Worrier, The NewYork Times, May 8, 2015. <https://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/10/opinion/sunday/judith-shulevitz-mom-the-designated-worrier.html (https://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/10/opinion/sunday/judith-shulevitz-mom-the-designated-worrier.html)>




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