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Gil, V. E. (1990). Sexual fantasy experiences and guilt among conservative Christians: An exploratory study. Journal of Sex Research, 27, 629638.

Cado, S., & Leitenberg, H. (1990). Guilt reactions to sexual fantasies during intercourse. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 19 (1), 4963.




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Freud, S. (1990). Creative writers and day-dreaming (J. Strachey, Trans.). In A. Dickson (Ed.), Art and Literature (pp. 129141). London: Penguin Books.




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Herbenick, D., Reece, M., Schick, V., Sanders, S. A., Dodge, B., & Fortenberry, J. D. (2010). Sexual behaviors, relationships, and perceived health status among adult women in the United States: Results from a national probability sample. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 7 (s5), 277290.

Reece, M., Herbenick, D., Schick, V., Sanders, S. A., Dodge, B., & Fortenberry, J. D. (2010). Sexual behaviors, relationships, and perceived health among adult men in the United States: Results from a national probability sample. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 7 (s5), 291304.

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