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2


https://www.businessinsider.com/most-popular-google-searches-on-relationships-201712




3


https://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/10/advice-for-high-school-graduates/




4


Weissbourd, R., Anderson, T. R., Cashin, A., & McIntyre, J. (2017). The talk: How adults can promote young peoples healthy relationships and prevent misogyny and sexual harassment. Harvard Graduate School of Educations Making Caring Common Project. Retrieved from https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b7c56e255b02c683659fe43/t/5bd51a0324a69425bd079b59/1540692500558/mcc_the_talk_final.pdf




5


Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., Baker, M., Harris, T., & Stephenson, D. (2015). Loneliness and social isolation as risk factors for mortality: A meta-analytic review. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 10(2), 227237.




6


Murthy, V. (2017). Work and the loneliness epidemic. Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from https://hbr.org/cover-story/2017/09/work-and-the-loneliness-epidemic




7


Chopik, W. J., & OBrien, E. (2017). Happy you, healthy me? Having a happy partner is independently associated with better health in oneself. Health Psychology, 36(1), 2130.




8


Boothby, E. J., Smith, L. K., Clark, M. S., & Bargh, J. A. (2017) The world looks better together: How close others enhance our visual experiences. Personal Relationships, 24, 694714.




9


Schnall, S., Harber, K. D., Stefanucci, J. K., & Proffitt, D. R. (2008). Social support and the perception of geographical slant. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 44(5), 12461255.




10


Gigerenzer, G., & Garcia-Retamero, R. (2017). Cassandras regret: The psychology of not wanting to know. Psychological Review, 124(2), 179196.




11


http://relationshipdecisions.org




12


Joel, S., MacDonald, G., & Page-Gould, E. (2018). Wanting to stay and wanting to go: Unpacking the content and structure of relationship stay/leave decision processes. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 9(6), 631644.




13


MacDonald, T. K., & Ross, M. (1999). Assessing the accuracy of predictions about dating relationships: How and why do lovers predictions differ from those made by observers? Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 25(11), 14171429. doi:10.1177/0146167299259007




14


Lerner, J. S., Li, Y., Valdesolo, P., & Kassam, K. S. (2015). Emotion and decision making. Annual Review of Psychology, 66, 799823.




15


Vazire, S., & Carlson, E. N. (2010). Self-knowledge of personality: Do people know themselves? Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 4(8), 605620.




16


Csikszentmihalyi, M., & Figurski, T. J. (1982). Self-awareness and aversive experience in everyday life. Journal of Personality, 50(1), 1528.




17


Bureau of Labor Statistics, U.S. Department of Labor (2016). American time use survey. https://www.bls.gov/tus/charts/ leisure.htm




18


Wilson, T. D., Reinhard, D. A., Westgate, E. C., Gilbert, D. T., Ellerbeck, N., Hahn, C.,  Shaked, A. (2014). Just think: The challenges of the disengaged mind. Science, 345(6192), 7577.




19


Son, L. K., & Kornell, N. (2010). The virtues of ignorance. Behavioural Processes, 83(2), 207212.




20


Moore, D. A., & Healy, P. J. (2008) The trouble with overconfidence. Psychological Review, 115(2), 502517.




21


Dunning, D., Griffin, D. W., Milojkovic, J. D., & Ross, L. (1990). The overconfidence effect in social prediction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 58(4), 568581.




22


Kruger, J., & Dunning, D. (1999). Unskilled and unaware of it: How difficulties in recognizing ones own incompetence lead to inflated self-assessments. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 77(6), 11211134.




23


Eidelson, R. J. (1981). Affiliative rewards and restrictive costs in developing relationships. British Journal of Social Psychology, 20(3), 197204.




24


Lavner, J. A., Karney, B. R., & Bradbury, T. N. (2014). Relationship problems over the early years of marriage: Stability or change? Journal of Family Psychology, 28, 979985.




25


Huston, T. L., Caughlin, J. P., Houts, R. M., Smith, S. E., & George, L. J. (2001). The connubial crucible: Newlywed years as predictors of marital delight, distress, and divorce. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 80, 237252.




26


Williamson, H. C., Nguyen, T. P., Bradbury, T. N., & Karney, B. R. (2016). Are problems that contribute to divorce present at the start of marriage, or do they emerge over time? Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 33(8), 11201134.




27


Rozin, P., & Royzman, E. B. (2001). Negativity bias, negativity dominance, and contagion. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 5(4), 296320.




28


Levari, D. E., Gilbert, D. T., Wilson, T. D., Sievers, B., Amodio, D. M., & Wheatley, T. (2018). Prevalence-induced concept change in human judgment. Science, 360(6396), 14651467.


