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    Frankl, V. E. (1984). Mans search for meaning: An introduction to logotherapy. New York: Simon & Schuster.




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             ,    .     ACT- (  Acceptance and Commitment Therapy  Acceptance and Commitment Training /   , ),   ,       ,   ;             .       .      ,     ,    ,       ,                ,       . .: Kashdan, T., & Rottenberg, J. (2010). Psychological flexibility as a fundamental aspect of health. Clinical Psychology Review, 30 (7), 865878; Biglan, A., Flay, B., Embry, D., & Sandler, I. (2012). The critical role of nurturing environments for promoting human well-being. American Psychologist, 67 (4), 257271; Bond, F. W., Hayes, S. C., & Barnes-Holmes, D. (2006). Psychological flexibility, ACT, and organizational behavior. Journal of Organizational Behavior Management, 26 (12), 2554; Lloyd, J., Bond, F. W., & Flaxman, P. E. (2013). The value of psychological flexibility: Examining psychological mechanisms underpinning a cognitive behavioral therapy intervention for burnout. Work and Stress, 27 (2), 181199; A-Tjak, J., Davis, M., Morina, N., Powers, M., Smits, J., & Emmelkamp, P. (2015). A meta-analysis of the efficacy of acceptance and commitment therapy for clinically relevant mental and physical health problems. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics, 84 (1), 3036; Aldao, A., Sheppes, G., & Gross, J. (2015). Emotion regulation flexibility. Cognitive Therapy and Research, 39 (3), 263278.




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    Strayer, D., Crouch, D., & Drews, F. (2006). A comparison of the cell phone driver and the drunk driver. Human Factors, 48 (2), 381391.




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  ,     Epel, E., Blackburn, E., Lin, J., Dhabhar, F., Adler, N., Morrow, J., & Cawthon, R. (2004). Accelerated telomere shortening in response to life stress. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 101 (49), 1731217315.




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     David, S., & Congleton, C. (2013, November). Emotional agility. How effective leaders manage their negative thoughts and feelings. Harvard Business Review, 125128.




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         Hayes, S. C., Strosahl, K. D., & Wilson, K. G. (1999). Acceptance and commitment therapy: An experiential approach to behavior change. New York: Guilford Press.




7


   .     David, S. (2009, September). Strengthening the inner dialogue,  -  Ernst & Young.




8


  (   Spanx Caprino, K. (2012, May 23). 10 lessons I learned from Sarah Blakely that you wont hear in business school. Forbes.




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   Maurer, D., Pathman, T., & Mondloch, C. J. (2006). The shape of boubas: Sound-shape correspondence in toddlers and adults. Developmental Science, 9 (3), 316322.




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 XVII     Milton, J. (2009). Paradise lost. New York: Penguin Classics (   1667 ).




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   Korzybski, A. (1933). A non-Aristotelian system and its necessity for rigor in mathematics and physics. Science and Sanity, 747761.           28  1931 .




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                Kashdan, T., & Rottenberg, J. (2010). Psychological flexibility as a fundamental aspect of health. Clinical Psychology Review, 30, 865878.  . Ambady, N., & Rosenthal, R. (1992). Thin slices of expressive behavior as predictors of interpersonal consequences: A meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 111 (2), 256274.


